Steps to follow to create a great Tiger-Tantric Massage:
The healing power of pleasure is a powerful tool when used consciously. It can also be delicate and, even elusive. The key element to remember in engaging in Tantric Massage is ‘Choice’. We make the choice to surrender to sensation and into the hands of another man. This is most successful when we create a strong container in which to explore. Here are some guidelines to create a strong container:
Creating the Container for the Experience
- Make Agreements about the Receiver’s Intentions, Goals and Boundaries. This is essential to creating a satisfying and healthy experience.
- Be clear about engagement with Mutual Touch or not. This is a choice for the Giver to make.
- State clearly what Giver’s and Receiver’s boundaries are. This agreement includes areas not to be touched.
- Be clear that the Tiger-Tantric Massage is the Receiver’s experience that the Giver facilitates.
- Giver makes clear that guided breathwork is part of the experience.
- Establish clear lines of communication between Giver and Receiver. This includes creating safe-words like: Go slower and Stop. Other communications may include phrases such as: ‘Please do more of that’ and ‘Yes’.
- The power of the PAUSE is important to remember. At times, it is appropriate to re-group, slow down and just breathe…
- Giver may encourage the Receiver to breathe deeply, loudly and fully. This empowers a full-experience and gives the Receiver permission to be in his animal-body
Leaning-Into Tantric Touch
The phrase: ‘Stay in the Moment’ has particular resonance and impact in Tantric Massage. The satisfaction is amplified the more one can completely inhabit the moment. Practically speaking, what does this mean? How does one achieve this?
- Let go of expectations. Those are a construct of your mind.
- Receiver: put your full attention on the place where your body meets the Giver’s hands/body. Lean into the Giver with your intention, your body and your breath.
- Leaning-in to someone and leaning-in mutually is an art. It is something that is learned as you navigate the session.
- One way to name this leaning-in is ‘Interface’- a place where energy and structure meet. The is an expansive state. It not only expands sensation and pleasure. Interface also expands consciousness.
- Leaning-in to painful places in the body with breath and awareness encourages the release of held tension in the body.
- The fuller the breath, the deeper the release of tension. Release of tension opens the way for more pleasure.
Tiger-Tantric Massage is a process of allowing what is present to unfold and emerge. Mutual honor and respect are part of this sensational journey. When we enter a Tantric agreement, we create a sacred space. This is not prescribed or conditional. If we are able give ourselves to the mysteries of the body, the breath and the spirit, the mind will follow.