Giver and Receiver enter into a Tantric Massage encounter with certain expectations. Agreements about the session ensure transparency and increased satisfaction.
Boundary issues for both Giver and receiver should be voiced as should expectations, desires and options.
Expressing our fantasies and desires is not always easy. There is always a chance you will not receive what you want. There is also a chance you will.
A Tantric Massage is a different animal than other kinds of massage. In Tantric Massage, genital and anal touch; mutual touch, self-touch are all options that should be spoken to and agreed upon beforehand. If we enter into the encounter willing and able to navigate boundaries and desires with clear communication, this helps us be more embodied and safe and, ultimately more in pleasure.
The tantric realm is an altered, trance-like state that allows the Receiver to go deeply inside themselves. We can, in this state, be transported to another part of our brains, to other frequencies inside us. The Tantric Agreement includes the Giver clearly communicating that they will take care of the Receiver. The main focus is the Receiver’s journey. The Giver facilitates this journey.
The Tantric Agreement includes using the Breath to facilitate energy circulation which in turn, allows our sensations and feelings to flow through us. The Giver should explain how breath and touch work together. There may be times to breathe deeply and times to quiet the breath. When our minds attempt to interrupt or sabotage our experience, our breath is the perfect tool to return to our embodied, sensory place.
Tantric Massage is not sex.
Tantric Massage is sexy, juicy, loving, expansive and connected. The focus is not on orgasm or mutual satisfaction. The sexiness comes with embracing the sexual energy inside us and leaning into it. If we embody our sexual energy, we can see life through a different lens. Our sexual energy is one with our vitality and the source of our creativity. It can be nurtured, nourished and cultivated in conscious ways for many purposes: Healing, Communicating; Creating; Connecting to ourselves and to others and to the Universal or Divine
It is this Connection to higher consciousness through the Tantric Touch Practice that we can connect without objectification, identification or projection. That is freeing for the body, mind and soul. No shame. No guilt. No regrets.
Body impulses and sensations can be strong when working with sexual energy and touch. This is why clear communication is so important in a Tantric Massage session.
Valuable and meaningful language in a Touch Session sounds like:
“What do you like?” “How do you like it?” “Faster” ”Slower” “Deeper?” “Lighter?” ‘Comforting” “Forceful” “Squeeze me!” “Harder!” “Softer” “Hold me”
“Breathe with Me”